Imagine the strength it takes to build a successful career in a foreign land while carrying the weight of supporting aging parents back home. This is the reality for countless migrants who balance their professional aspirations with the deep-rooted responsibility of caring for their loved ones across continents. As senior executives, leaders, and advocates for Culturally and Linguistically Diverse communities, recognising these personal stories can profoundly impact how we create inclusive and supportive environments. Dive into this compelling narrative that sheds light on the unique challenges and unwavering dedication of migrant families and discover the extraordinary strength and resilience that bind them.
My Personal Story
This is my dad. At 80 years old, he lives alone in Fiji. Despite the challenges of age and health, including a quadruple bypass five years ago, he remains steadfast in his decision to stay in his home. My sister-in-law lives next door and cooks for him, but finding house help or carers in Fiji is tough. So, I visit frequently to clean, ensure his medical needs are up to date, and simply spend quality time with him, reminiscing about the past and discussing the present.
My mum passed away six years ago, and shortly after, my dad underwent a quadruple bypass surgery. This has limited his ability to work on the farm he bought as his dream. Travelling is also difficult for him. However, despite the distance and the conveniences he could have in Australia with us, he prefers the simple, familiar lifestyle of Fiji. The close-knit community and the familiar environment give him a sense of peace and belonging that he cherishes deeply.
Many people view Fiji as a paradise, a holiday resort. But for most Fijians, it’s a humble lifestyle filled with warmth and community. Despite not having many material possessions, the people are incredibly friendly and deeply connected. Weddings, funerals and religious functions are whole village affair.
Since Mum’s passing, Dad has been fairly alone. He receives occasional visits, including from local vegetable vendors. He maintains his connections by making phone calls to neighbours and friends and attending religious gatherings nearby when he can. These interactions mean the world to him, keeping his spirit alive and his heart content. However, he is constantly on our minds, and we constantly worry about him living alone and so far away from us. We must continue figuring out how to support him from afar, balancing our responsibilities and love for him.
Our story is not unique. It mirrors the experiences of many migrants who, while building lives abroad, continue to care deeply for their families back home. It is a delicate balance of love and responsibility, nurturing dreams while honouring reality.
The Migrant Experience in Australia
According to the International Organization for Migration (IOM), there are over 280 million international migrants worldwide as of 2020. Many migrants face the dual challenge of establishing themselves in a new country while remaining connected to and supporting their families in their country of origin. This phenomenon is particularly common among migrants from countries with strong family and community ties.
Australia is home to many migrants, with nearly 30% of Australia’s population born overseas. Many migrants come from countries like India, China, the Philippines, and various Pacific Islands, including Fiji. They seek better economic opportunities, education, and a higher standard of living. However, the cultural and emotional connections to their homeland remain strong.
A report by the Monash Asia Institute highlights that remittances sent by migrants to their families back home play a crucial role in supporting households in their countries of origin. These remittances often fund education, healthcare, and everyday expenses, providing a lifeline for many families. In 2019, over $7 billion in remittances were sent from Australia to overseas countries, largely with migrants sending billions of dollars to their home countries.
The Pacific Islander Community in Australia
The Pacific Islander community in Australia, including Fijians, is a vibrant and close-knit group. Despite the geographical distance, they maintain strong cultural ties and traditions. Community events, religious gatherings, and cultural festivals are common, providing migrants a sense of belonging and continuity.
Many migrants, including those from the Pacific Islands, often face the challenge of balancing their new lives in Australia with their responsibilities back home. This includes financial support, caregiving, and emotional connection. These migrants, however, exhibit resilience and adaptability, often creating support networks within their communities in Australia.
Personal Reflections
Every visit to Fiji, I am reminded of the simple yet profound joy of spending time with my dad. We reminisce about the past, share stories of the present, and find comfort in each other’s company. His strength and resilience inspire me, and his unwavering connection to his home grounds me.
To all the migrants out there juggling life between two worlds, know that your efforts are seen and appreciated. You embody the spirit of dedication and love, bridging the gap between where you are and where your heart lies.
Let us cherish our roots, honour our families, and continue to embrace the journey with open hearts. Because, at the end of the day, the love we share transcends borders.
Share Your Story
How does this story resonate with you? Have you experienced something similar, or do you know someone who has? I invite you to share your stories and reflections. Let’s create a space to connect, support, and inspire each other.
